Skin Tight – a train of thought activity

Sometimes, I just sit down and write what pops into my head.  This is what flowed out today.

 

Skin Tight

There come seasons in your life that are so powerfully emotional that they overwrite every bad dream, every negative thought and your eyes water with tears over the smallest things, because you feel so perfectly good at just about every moment.

You walk over to fears and say “Boo!” and they leave.

You look at yourself in the mirror and say “Hello beautiful, where have you been all of my life?”

You look at other humans and you see richness and layers in bodies that sometimes used to appear as empty and vacant as those celebrity sign boards.

You walk among silence and hear it sing, and you walk among music and you hear the heartbeat and mortality of the composer who wrote it in a dark room, alone.

You read a book and you understand that the spaces between the words say as much as the words that rush in to fill the spaces.

And sometimes, other people can see it, and it makes them smile; others, still not there yet, think you remind them of an empty, vacant celebrity sign board.

 

Being human is a funny and frail thing.  Words dent and scar us and yet collisions with metal heal without a trace.  It is during special times like these that you wonder if you’ve suddenly discovered mental illness runs in your family or maybe your vision has been maladjusted for nearly most of your life.  Everything is sharp and clear, laughter rings deep in your chest and flows out of your spine and even the nonsensical makes sense, when you read it sideways, with your mouth held just right.

What causes such a shift in paradigm?  It is that moment that your skin clicks over you and locks into place, and you’re no longer walking around wondering “When will I get a covering in my size, to my liking, that reflects who I truly am?”, never knowing that your entire life you have been knitting it, tailoring it, letting it in and out, perhaps changing the color, raising and lowering the hem, fiddling with it always – in other words, you never just let it sit upon you the way it was meant to do.  You let the emotional fashion advice of those who did not truly know you influence you like those women’s magazines that show perfect bodies and expensive clothing that is so far divorced from most reality that they exist just to cause dissatisfaction with your real life – and so you rejected the skin that belonged to you because it did not suit another. 

It starts from when one is young and continues until one reaches a point where they can say “STOP.  This is my skin and the only one that needs to wear it is me.  If you don’t care for it, that’s all right, there are others out there.  But this one is just right for me.”  And you stop being Goldilocks, always looking in other people’s houses where you really don’t belong, for something intimately made for you that fits just right, even if there are stains, wrinkles, scars and weirdly run-together colors that are evidence of a life lived within that skin. Those patches that cover the inroads that others made to get under your skin?  Beautiful. The burn holes where the careless let the embers of their own emptiness burn into you that you never quite healed?  Priceless. The stray strings that reflect when you bump into things that catch hold for a brief moment and leave behind little things to be tended to? Normal.

And when this skin fits so well and is comfortable, you realize that you don’t have to change colors to be among others, to blend in, to be unseen. You don’t have to keep pace with the emotional fashion police that come into your life and warn you not to be wearing last year’s look.

You simply need to just be, because you are living art.

Credit to Sue Monk Kidd

Credit to Sue Monk Kidd

 

~SE

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  34 comments for “Skin Tight – a train of thought activity

  1. April 20, 2014 at 7:28 PM

    Damn! You must have been in my head today. Poignant. Well said, dear friend. Very well said.

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  2. sheketechad
    April 20, 2014 at 7:54 PM

    I hope it wasn’t too crowded in there 😉 Thank you, I always value honest feedback.

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  3. April 21, 2014 at 2:08 PM

    Reblogged this on The Trained Soul and commented:
    This post, by a dear friend and very talented writer, explains in great detail how I felt this past weekend. Enjoy! 🙂

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  4. April 22, 2014 at 10:03 AM

    I love this!! So beautiful and true. I do have seasons of fitting gorgeously in my own skin. They began just a few years ago. Before that I was always adjusting to please my skin’s viewers. Thank you for this thoughtful post of meaningful metaphors. I am bookmarking it to share.

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    • sheketechad
      April 22, 2014 at 12:50 PM

      Thank you Brenda, for your thoughtful feedback. It is an amazing thing, to finally recognize the fit. Enjoy, as you wear it well!

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  5. April 24, 2014 at 11:25 AM

    Hi! I realized I don’t know how to contact you other than through your comments. Could I share this piece on my space2live Facebook fan page? I think my readers would appreciate it.:) You can reach me at space2live@yahoo.com.

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    • sheketechad
      April 24, 2014 at 12:10 PM

      Hi Brenda, I’ve dropped you a note via E-mail. Thank you!

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  6. June 27, 2014 at 12:58 PM

    3 things jumping out:

    “You read a book and you understand that the spaces between the words say as much as the words that rush in to fill the spaces.”

    “…emotional fashion police”

    “so far divorced from reality”

    I think those last 2 especially hit the nail on the head with how dysfunctional of an approach some people have when “counseling” or “giving advice.”

    Thanks for sharing this!

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    • June 27, 2014 at 1:02 PM

      Thank you for the read! I’m glad you found good things in there, and I appreciate the follow 🙂

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  7. August 14, 2014 at 9:25 AM

    You just described..PERFECTLY…every inner life of every woman on the planet in this post. WOW. Very insightful. very beautiful and healing message.
    Love your work! 🙂

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    • August 14, 2014 at 9:27 AM

      Thank you very much. There is nothing like resonance with others, unique but same, that gives a written piece life. Glad you stopped by!

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  8. August 14, 2014 at 9:35 AM

    Wow, wow, wow! Clap! Clap!! Clap!!! This so resonates well with me. Wonderful article, thanks for sharing dear. Keep it up

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  9. Joce
    August 14, 2014 at 9:39 AM

    Reblogged this on FREUDE.

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  10. August 14, 2014 at 9:56 AM

    Reblogged this on truespiritblog.

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  11. August 14, 2014 at 9:56 AM

    Thanks for sharing Cristian Mihai

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  12. August 14, 2014 at 10:49 AM

    I find my self in a constant battle with my appearance–I am in the gym, in the mirror, and on the scale far more than I’d like to admit. Reading this was refreshing. I’ll try, today, to be happy with what I got.

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    • August 14, 2014 at 11:05 AM

      As I mentioned earlier today to a friend – contentment. Humans struggle with it. Dogs seem to have a knack for it 🙂 I am glad it helps for today. Today is all we really have anyway. Thank you for the kind words.

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  13. August 14, 2014 at 10:54 AM

    My goodness, this touched me so deeply. It is written with such loveliness- I nearly cried! You are tremendously talented 🙂

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    • August 14, 2014 at 11:07 AM

      Thank you. It is the highest compliment a writer can receive, to know their words found a home as a help. I appreciate you taking a few moments of your valuable time to let me know. 🙂

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  14. August 14, 2014 at 11:32 AM

    Wow! Just wow!

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  15. August 14, 2014 at 1:37 PM

    Reblogged this on Living Life Day by Day and commented:
    This post is a definite must read, even if it’s just to see how we arrived at this conclusion: “And when this skin fits so well and is comfortable, you realize that you don’t have to change colors to be among others, to blend in, to be unseen. You don’t have to keep pace with the emotional fashion police that come into your life and warn you not to be wearing last year’s look.

    You simply need to just be, because you are living art.” Awesome words of wisdom indeed -)

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    • August 14, 2014 at 1:42 PM

      Thank you for your thoughtful words and the reblog. Now, if only I could summon that wise woman at will; she’s trickier than my muse 😉

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  16. August 14, 2014 at 2:02 PM

    So beautifully written and spiritually touching. I love your closing statement, “You simply need to just be, because you are living art.”

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    • August 14, 2014 at 2:19 PM

      Thank you. We are all unique, and do not all fit standardized ‘beauty’ requirements, just as standardized anything rarely sits well on all humans. We each offer something individual, but we have to accept ourselves first before that can bloom I think.

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      • August 14, 2014 at 2:21 PM

        Yaaaaassss so true!!! And to me such restrictions are satanic because true beauty is found in diversity and God is the author of such a notion.

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  17. August 14, 2014 at 8:42 PM

    Such an awesome post! I was quite intrigued by the the title and the post did not disappoint me at all.
    such simple yet powerful words you have penned down!!

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    • August 14, 2014 at 8:45 PM

      Thank you very much. It is in the simple more often than in the profound. Easy to forget for all of us though I think 🙂

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